Types of Friends
June 2007 (perspective of a Ph.D. student)
I provide metrics for classifying how good of friends you are with someone. I also hypothesize that although gregarious people have more distant friends than introverted people do, almost everyone has a similar number of close friends.
Here is a way to quickly categorize people based on how good of friends you are with them:
I hypothesize that the more social you are, the more distant (Types 3, 4 and 5) friends you have, but the number of close (Type-1 and Type-2) friends you have remains fairly constant, regardless of your level of gregariousness.
I'm no expert on interpersonal relations, but it's my intuition that most people cannot sustain close, meaningful friendships with more than 10 people. Having more distant friends can be fun, but ultimately, it's your relationships with your Type-1 and Type-2 friends that should be valued the most, even if that means you have fewer distant friends.
How good of friends are you with someone?
Just how good of friends are you with someone? Your responses to these questions can help pinpoint the answer: